For some days now, I have been trying to deal with some very important information regarding
Dad's family. I thought all of Dad's siblings were aware of this family information regarding a
situation. Sort of strange because Aunt Bethel knew, Uncle Gerald knew, always thought the closeness
of Bethel and Muriel, that A Muriel knew. For their older sister to not know has left me nWe, I thought
were close. No I was in HI when she passed I think. Maybe she didn't think it important for
children to know..
Dad being the oldest witness this situation several times. Our Grandparents divorced. We all knew this.
I got a IN YOUR FACE EDUCATION by my Grandma and my Dad around midnight the week of my
graduation.
This started as topic about Dad and his siblings past, Mom said. I can tell you now it was the best
thing to happen between, Gmom and Dad. Much healing in his heart and hers came about and I saw it.
I am not going to post the whole story here, but some cousins need to be made aware that some things
weren't as they seemed. They missed getting to know a Grandfather with a college background, sent
to France to be a Chef. He told me he married the woman he wanted to and would love her til death
took them away. That statement made July 1958 in Casper, Wyo. by him to our family. He never wanted
the divorce.
We found him with family help and friends help in 1952. He was in Casper Wyo. sick with pneumonia.
Something we learned he got to often. He came to visit us and stayed for a period of time. I thought
Aunt Etta had the boys over but many times when company come they were to busy. to tell family hi.
He would catch little Lucky's tears when he had a fit and say grabbing a glass, cup, jar , what ever was handy and put it up to his face. "We can't let them steers get away." Lucky would immediately stop his tantrum or unhappiness,.It did not matter which. HE just stopped and looked at Grandpa. What a clever
thing for him to do. He taught Mom to put some pineapple juice in Navy beans to remove the gas. I still do it and it really cuts gas reaction. He taught us other neat things about being in the kitchen.O yes, never put lid on beans it keeps gas in system. Almost forgot that one. He shared many hints with us.
He could make a leg of lamb be the tastiest piece of meat ever created. I never could duplicate it.
We saw him last the same year 1958 in Casper when he again had pneumonia very very bad .
He cried when he told me about the divorce. He never blamed Ida. But he put much information
about his Mother in Law as part of issue. When he and Dad explained situation I could feel the pain.
He didn't dislike her either but some things allowed were not proper. This so helped Dad and I to
understand things better. She Gmom did as taught not as appropriate for others.
I was thrilled Dad could finally talk nice things about his Mom. He did love her underneath.
She stayed I think with all her children in her last years and she lived in my home in Coronado in the
1966-7 time period. Later in this house for 6 months after we bought and had come back from HI. 1970
Aunt Jennie was very ill with cancer and she rotated to Uncle Gerald's (Jerry) and here per stress
and be here as her son needed her support.
I can not talk of some of the past but Aunt Bethel, suffered much as others did. She told me many times
her Dad never hurt any of them and tried to help often but she (G) was upset and did not want the children to have any help but hers even when Bethel had no shoes and Etta no coat in 33 degree weather. Which.. caused Dad to dislike the pain his siblings had to endure. I was glad Dad and her were on decent terms
when she passed. He truly felt bad at all they missed due to attitude. Yes by more than one I suspect it was affecting all.
Sometimes pride can harm the best of Situations.
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